Introduction
Coffee is an integral part of life for many of us, whether it’s a morning pick-me-up, an extra boost during an afternoon slump, or to stay focused during a late night studying session. But more than just a potential source of caffeine, coffee can be a special shared experience. Going out together for coffee is more than just an opportunity to chat over a cup of something warm and energizing; it’s a time for friends to form connections, talk about their lives and share a few laughs. However, there’s more to the coffee experience than just the clothes you wear and the places you go – so what really makes having coffee with someone special?
Experience
First, there’s the experience. Sharing coffee allows both people to slow down and appreciate the moment. Low-key conversation rolling over caffeinated conversation lets both people relax and appreciate the moment without the pressure of expectations. Coffee also gives both people the chance to open up in a way that the expectation of conversation may not. You’ll never know what you two can uncover or explore together in a two-hour session over coffee.
Break Free
There’s also the sense of adventure that comes with attending a coffee date. The conveniences of modern life let us order a cup of joe from the comfort of our own homes, but that means that both parties are statistically more likely to pull out their phones and start checking emails, text messages, and more– all of which distract them from the experience of just being together. Breaking away from the all-to-familiar comfort of routine and having a different kind of coffee date takes the pressure off and allows both people to breathe a little bit.
Connection
Sharing coffee can also be a great way to form a lasting connection. Whether it’s a hobby or shared interests, talking to someone over a cup of coffee lets two people understand each other on a deeper level. It also allows both people to be themselves without fear of judgement. Plus, the very act of sipping and savoring coffee can be a true bonding experience where both parties can truly feel connected.
Laughter and Light
Having coffee with someone is also a truly enjoyable social experience. Both parties can share a few laughs, relax, and talk about their lives in an open and inviting setting. We all know the effects of having a good cup of coffee and the light yet profound conversations that can come out of it.
Sacred Space
Sharing coffee with someone letting us build a special and sacred space between each other– one that is intimate but not possessive, unique yet not distracting. It’s a two-way street of mutual understanding and respect. This space allows us to explore our deepest and most difficult conversations without fear of judgement.
Beyond Words
Finally, there’s something invaluable and intangible that comes when sharing a cup of coffee with someone. Both people can share more than just stories and ideas – they can share feelings and emotions in a safe and relaxed environment. Something about a cup of coffee seems to bring us closer to our emotions and the ones we share it with. This allows us to explore some of the most profound conversations of all – beyond words.
Aesthetic Appeal
As well as these important, psychological benefits, sharing coffee comes with an aesthetic allure. Many people love the prospect of meeting someone, and sharing a cup of coffee, in a quaint cafe, buzzing with nearby conversations. There is something so intimate and special about this experience, one that will often lead to beautiful memories and treasured snapshots.
Memories
Coffee encourages us to not just live in the moment, but to remember the moment; whether that be a treasured memory of a cafe you ventured to, or a way of holding a caffeine-induced conversation. Sharing a cup of coffee with someone is a lasting way to pause your life and take a moment to appreciate the beauty of the world and the conversations we can have with the people we care about or even strangers.
Quality Time
In a time where our lives are becoming more and more engulfed by the internet and our phones, spending time talking and having coffee with someone is a beautiful way to indulge in a truly unplugged and ‘real’ experience. It is a way to both connect and disconnect from yourself, from the person you are sharing a cup of coffee with, and from the world.
Accompaniment
While having coffee alone can offer a time of peace and quiet reflection, having coffee with someone else can enhance it even more. Being in the presence of someone who truly cares for you and values your story is a powerful experience, enhancing the taste of the coffee, the setting, and the conversation that unfolds.
Having coffee with someone can give rise to that beautiful moment of realization when you see that despite your differences, you share some of the same values. It’s in this moment that the person you’re having coffee with can go from being a stranger to a friend, a partner in crime, or even a source of guidance.
Though it may just be a seemingly insignificant cup of coffee, having coffee with someone can offer an immense sense of joy and satisfaction. This is due to the connection that can form and the comfort of being in the presence of someone who truly makes you feel seen, heard, and understood.
Delectable Aroma
Going to a coffee shop for an afternoon hangout isn’t just about the conversations and a break from routines, it’s also about the mesmerizing aroma of freshly ground, freshly brewed coffee that engulfs the whole shop. It is something that cannot be explained, and something that can only be experienced first-hand. The allure of this aroma is universal, and it can make your coffee experience with someone else that much more special.
The Finer Details
When you truly take the time to pick a great cup of coffee – be it an espresso, a sugar-dusted mocha, or something more elaborate – it can truly bring magic to an evening. It’s in this moment when many new possibilities, conversations, and stories can be borne out of the deliciousness of the coffee.
Value of Presence
Finally, when having coffee with someone it’s important to appreciate the presence of the moment. The conversations, the laughter, and the feelings that come along with it all make the combination of coffee and company that much more special. We live in a world of “go, go, go”, so it’s important to appreciate when we have the opportunity to slow down and just be together.
